Have
you ever felt angry and extremely offended because someone hurt you? How about
dealing with the effect of the pain? That's even more overwhelming.
For
your own sake you need to learn to let go. Presently, Forgiveness Therapy is now used as treatment for diseases, even for deadly diseases as
deadly as cancer.
Just
imagine!
Its
even more painful when the person who wrong's you is a close family member or
friend and to make matters worse, the person doesn't even acknowledge that what
he or she did was wrong.
You
need to settle things within yourself. First try to understand if that is the
person's attitude. For example you're angry with your spouse or fiancee because
of the way he handles money or she annoyed you with what she said; is that the
first time he spent money in a way you didn't like? or how does she talk to
those around her? If it's quite normal, then you have to straighten things out
together. If you aren't married, good for you as it means you can set
guidelines for yourselves before you get married. But if you are, you have to
find a way around it (if you can).
Don't
resort to settling things while you're angry because you could say worse things
than the offender and you may end up being the one at fault. Things could just
take a little twist. Let me give you an example:
My friend Tiffany was angry with her sister Tricia. She wore Tricia's shoe for a small family gathering and when Tricia saw it, she shouted at her in the presence of the guests. Most people scolded Tricia for talking the way she did but Tiffany was still angry and she told them that was what Tricia did and she gave dates and examples; everyone turned against Tiffany because of that.
Don't think you understand what's going on with the offender. Probe and find out.
Finally,
the key to your happiness is with you, don't let anyone take it from you.
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