THE ONE BEHIND THE IRON MASK.

Tito, my friend was about to get married; so Tito, our other friends and I were having a pre-wedding hang out with her and we asked her how she got to where she was: which was getting to the point where she decided to say “I do”. 

We asked her when her heart skipped a beat (when she fell in love) and she said it never happened. 

At first we thought it was a joke; we laughed about it and made jest of her but when we found out she was serious, we calmed down to listen to her. 

She said she put in a conscious effort to check everything about the guy and relationship with the sense of “if I see anything I can’t stand, I’ll walk away”. We were all shocked and wondered what she meant. 

The shock came because growing up and watching so many movies had taught me that you meet Mr. or Miss right, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after.

The only problem this posed was that there was nothing like 'living happily ever after'. The ceremony ends in one day and you’ll face your life together alone. All the banners, make-up and acting will be over and you can see things the way they really are.

Another important thing she said is that most problems that arise after marriage are always there before marriage. It depends on individuals to either take note of the signs or ignore it. Most times people ignore it and that little problem will eventually become a big one. 

What you notice something wrong in your relationship while you’re courting, deal with it before you get married or it will grow so big that you might not be able to handle it when you’re married. 

Tito told us there's no need to pretend. The mask will fall off someday and you'll see the other person for who he or she truly is.

She also thanked us her friends for helping her scrutinize the guy. For something as important as someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need other “good eyes” to help you check out the person because there are things you might miss.

I think you should munch on this.

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