Shh..Peace

It’s pretty lovely how chatting with the people around you can make things dawn on you. 

My friends Ada, Tomisin and Lateef and I went to visit another friend of ours last weekend. We call her biggest sis, she was celebrating her son’s 7^th birthday and we decided to honour her with our presence. 

We took a cab and since there was traffic we decided to take selfies and chat instead of just looking like ‘bolo’    

We spoke about how we wanted to change so many things. Ada spoke on how she wanted to be taller and despite the fact that she’s about 5.6Mtrs. We all screamed at her, how could she say something like that? It was rather preposterous! 

Next came Tomisin who said she wanted a bigger backside to give some particular women a run for their money and to hit some people off the stairs. We all laughed at her because she was also heavily endowed in front (if you know what I mean) and it would have been too much for her all at once. 

Lateef is rather proud; he’s always had to remind us of how he’s always had an awesome figure. We were still yelling at him when we arrived at the party place. I asked him later and he told me all he wanted to change was some things in his past and I gave him the quizzical look. I told him I would have preferred a flat tummy.

This got me thinking, how many people are also thinking this way? So I decided to grab my phone and I ran a survey on most of my contacts. Although some responded, some said they didn’t know. 

Amongst those who answered I got so many types of answers. Many people wanted to change a particular thing about their bodies; some wanted to change grades, for others it was a way of life or mindset. I was quite surprised with the answers I got.

Well, the normal way is for motivational talk. You need to find peace within yourself. First of all, you really don’t know why you are created this way. There’s this folktale of a servant who was banished because he chopped off one of his master’s finger. 

While the master continued on the journey all alone, he fell into the hands of cannibals who wanted to eat him. They noticed he missed a finger so they let him go because they only eat whole humans. So, that you don’t have that banging body is for a good purpose (finding that out would help you a lot). 

Moreover, have you ever been in a situation where you kept telling yourself how you hated something and a few minutes later, someone else tells you how much they love it. You look into their eyes and see it’s true.  Appreciate who you are because it’s the first step to making others value you.

When you appreciate who you are you see things in the right perspective. You have the courage to speak up and shut up at the right time and the wisdom to change the things you don’t want to what you want. You have the finesse to stand up right in the midst of any situation, get the right picture of who you want to be.

Remember, the key to appreciating yourself is to be at peace with you.

If you’re satisfied with what you heard that’s all right, just stop because right now I’m about to grab the bull by the horn.

The truth is I have a grouse with motivational talk. If it works for you I mean they give you ten step to stop a habit and it works that’s really cool, please stop at the previous paragraph but if you feel me then you can move on with me. 

A wise man once said there’s a sense of purpose in our hearts. This makes us yearn for more. So we always yearn for more in everything. Take a baby who grew in the womb; he actually came out because she could no longer take the womb. 

He’s tired of being squeezed and feeding through umbilical cord so he’s out. He starts sucking and later gets tired and moves to semi-solids. He sees you masticating and follows suit, then he crawls, moves to standing, walking and then running. 

He later tries something new, talking, so he blabs then tries to say monosyllabic words, then graduates into bigger words, and then tries to say what you’re saying. Asides you making him go to school till he gets his degree, he chases after things himself. 

He has friends but he wants more check out all his social media contact, he keeps sending requests, accepting more, likes more, pokes more. He gets a job, then continues to search for one with a good pay, moves to search for another with a better pay, who knows if he creates one for himself and then he still looks for more money and how to make it better. 

He probably drinks, then gets a girlfriend(s) and then finds the one who suitable for him in shape, size and wisdom. He settles with her but then he finds another with something more attractive and brings her to himself, he has kids but goes for more. 

He wants something more but he interprets it as boredom so he keeps trying to get something done may be go into body building or get something that will make him more popular.

 
Before it sounds like I’m a female chauvinist, a woman also goes through all of this. 

As a teenager, she has a friend so she needs to step up, she buys clothes, shoes and bags and with this she gets more friends who introduce her to big boys she wants to feel among she buys more clothes and keeps aiming for higher men. 

She becomes the talk of the town and then she keeps looking for ways to remain on top, she has a nice figure so she takes out one of her rib. She gets a liposuction, butt and breast implant. She wants more so she gets a baby (ies) she wants to be accomplished then moves to be a career woman. The list grows endless.

Even homosexuals who were once involved in heterosexual marriage. You want the best but they can’t get it there so they move to being homosexual and there’s still no satisfaction. 

You just keep trying different things. Even if you’re a bookworm, you keep going for more from your first degree, to the next, to different certifications and professional courses. 

May be you can’t be a show off like others but then there’s always something within you feel that’s within your reach so you keep trying to grasp it.

Why do we want more? Why do we get tired after a while? Is it because there is more? Isn’t it possible this is where true peace lies, because there is something more?

What’s this thing exactly?